
If you are looking for Mrs. Right,(or Mr.Right for you ladies) it’s important to know what you DON’T want in a relationship too. In fact, it may be even MORE important to know what you don’t want before deciding what you DO want. Also, if you’re uncertain or unsure of what you should be looking for, sometimes it’s easier to start from the “what I want to avoid” point of view first. Here’s an example of what I mean:
Imagine that you are going shopping for a shirt. The salesperson presents you with several shirts to purchase and asks you to make a selection. At this point, you might say to yourself, “I really don’t know what I want, but I DO know that I DON’T want to buy a long sleeved shirt. Also, I need to purchase a shirt with a front pocket to hold my cellphone, so I DON’T want a shirt without a front pocket. I don’t want a red shirt, etc. etc. By starting out knowing what you DON’T want, you have started the process of elimination. It helps you decide what you do want.
Choosing a partner, isn’t exactly like buying a shirt, but why not start out by writing a list of five destructive behaviors that you don’t want. Granted, people can and do change, but here would be my list:
1. I don’t want someone I can’t trust.
2. I don’t want someone who is dishonest.
3. I don’t want someone who always attracts drama or is a victim somehow.
4. I don’t want someone who is not responsible.
5. I don’t want someone who will put their needs first before our relationship.
There you have it. My five tips may seem simple at first, but if you are looking for Mr.Right or Mrs. Right, you want to size him or her up with these five issues before you size up your engagement ring. Because if you are looking for a long-lasting relationship, they are critical to making certain that you will have the relationship of your dreams.


